Key points

Caregivers may find it difficult to embrace their role.

Each change is a loss which must be grieved

Learn as much as you can about your loved one’s illness or disability.

Some caregivers face unique challenges because of special circumstances (sandwich generation, long distance caregiving, grandparents raising grandchildren).

Encourage your loved one’s independence.

Ask for help.


Icebreaker questions (choose one)

What is the farthest you have ever traveled from home?

What is the most unusual vehicle you have ever traveled in or animal you have ridden on?

What is the oddest thing you have ever eaten?


Discussion questions

Tell us about your caregiving experience. (Who is your loved one? Did caregiving start as a result of a crisis or develop slowly over time?)

What is a loss you are grieving right now about your situation?

What is something you can do to encourage your loved one’s independence?

How are you at asking for help?

Review the Caregiver Weekly Check Up


Periodically reviewing these questions may help you be more aware of what is happening in your caregiving journey and find perspective to make better decisions. Even if you don’t journal, you may find it helpful to discuss these questions with a small group, healthcare professional, or other supports.

Caregiver Weekly Check Up

Help and Hope for Family Caregivers’ accompanying workbook.